Living life as a single whether through divorce or death is a hard adjustment. I've been there.

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A single baby boomer's lifestyle after divorce or death of a spouse can be a traumatic and life altering experience. I should be an expert on this subject. I have been married 3 times, actually 4 times since I married my second wife twice. I believe the divorce rate was at a record high in the 70s.

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I am sure you can tell by this time that I am being very candid about my real life experiences. I was marching to the beat of my own drum long before the hippie era. When I say this, I don't mean to say that I have spent my life doing bad things. We all have things in our past that we either regret or would do differently. I know I do. Whether it was doing aerobatics all alone in an airplane, running a jet boat wideor just sitting alone on a sand dune listening to the waves and watching a beautiful sunset. I can honestly say, I have enjoyed my life. Have I lived it without the pain and agony that comes with life? Absolutely not.

I suppose I could have avoided some of the pain had I chosen to take a more cautious approach to life, but that wasn't me and never will be. Even due to restrictions put on me that you will understand if you read the "About me" section in this site, I still have plans for other ventures. I may not be able to accomplish them but it will not be from lack of trying.

Single baby boomers may be single for a variety of reasons. Divorce and death are the most comman reasons, I have no doubt. Some have never been married and don't want to get married. I think they are probably in the minority. Others have been in marriages that ended up in divorce an just aren't ready for a serious relationship. I think it was the rock group "Nazareth" That came out with the song, "LOVE HURTS". Love does hurt, especially when the person you love is no longer a part of your life. This is a good network for single parents, men or women.. Believe me when I say I have been there. I learned the hard way that you do need support through times like death and divorce. This site has a lot of good information dealing on this subject. Check it out. Life after Divorce. If you have lost your Spouse due to death, Join this group for support after the Death of a Spouse.

A friend of mine, a psychiatrist, once told me that it is often easier for some people to loose someone in death than through divorce.I suppose there is some truth to that. At least you know it is final even though you still have to go through the different stages of acceptance and grieving. When there are young children involved I can tell you for a fact, it seems to never end, at least not until the children are grown.

It is always the children who get hurt the most. This is a blog site that has a lot of information about children in divorces and different state laws.. There are times in life when it is comforting to know that we are being represented by someone who is paid to make sure our legal interests come first. Find yourself a good Attorney.

I learned the hard way that in a divorce, things can turn "nasty" very fast. Even though I haven't been involved in an estate settlement, I have friends who have. Sadly "MONEY" can cause brothers and sisters to become enemies over an estate settlement. Maybe some of you have had first hand experience in that area, I certainly have.

I was single for a 7-year period after my 2nd marriage. There were periods that I enjoyed it and times that I was very unhappy, even though I always had a female friends. So I can sum this up by saying a total single life, without children and grandchildren would not have been for me. If something were to happen to my wife of the last 23 years, I would never re-marry for several reasons, primarily I love her but its not just that. Not only does she have all of the qualities that I looked for in a woman, she is just a pleasure being married too. So I wouldn't bother even trying to find those qualities. I would just want to have friends.

There are many single baby boomers in the other two groups, especially, divorced. Some of you may be asking what made you such a professional? This is and has been my philosophy no matter what the topic in life. Don't talk the talk until you have walked the walk and all I can say is I have walked it. People handle tragedies in different ways. My wife for example, keeps things bottled up inside. I, on the other hand, am very emotional and it is very hard for me to hide my feelings.

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The first advice I would give anyone going through divorce or death of a spouse today is. Don't lock yourself away. I know I did that. It won't work. You have to accept it and start making some effort to move on, no matter how small the effort. The first tendency is to keep the blinds closed and just stay in bed. Usually you will try to avoid people and just want to stay home. Please don't do that.the blinds as soon as you get up and let the sun light in. Get outside. Go on a shopping spree. Start looking out for # 1, YOU! Shop for Discount Designer Apparel at LabelSpree!

If you enjoy your job, immerse yourself in your work and talk about your situation with your "true" friends. If you have a friend of the opposite sex that you can confide in, a shoulder to lean on, or even to cry on when you have to, then do it. Forget about sex for the time being. If you are like I was, you won't have any of those desires for a while. Stay away from places that bring back painful memories. Don't even try drowning your grief in the bottle. Alcohol is a depressant, so while it may appear to make things better while you are drinking, wait until the next morning and you will see what I am talking about.

Go to church whether you are a Christian or not. If you don't want to do that just getting out walking around the shopping malls, or going to low keyed functions with a couple of friends may help. If none of these things work its time to seek the help of a medical professional.

Soon those memories will begain to fade and "Look", there is a great big world out there. I was single for seven years after my second divorce. At that time I had no desire to re-marry but I was ready to have friends and enjoy life and I did. I started going out and in no time I had all of the friends that I wanted, especially of the opposite sex. Of course, I am not shy, but if you are there is always the dating services. This has become a very popular trend. Give it a try.

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